Thank God It's Saturday

What Day of the Week Are You?

You Are Saturday
Like this day of the week, you are ruled by Saturn.
More than anything, you are down to earth.

You are practical and wise. You take care of yourself before all others.
Sometimes you tend to be a bit suspicious. You are protective of what you have.

While some people see Saturday as a day of leisure, you see it as a day to get things done.
You always look forward to your productive Saturdays. You wouldn't have them any other way!

Noel EnRouge(d)

Taken by our friend Clyde Manzano. Visit his site at www.clydemanzano.multiply.com

Here's me in RED. Ain't it just grand? =D



Love letters and idealisms by Noel Abelardo

Bodies

It was dark and cold.
Their bodies entwined
Locked in tight embrace
That beads of sweat ran down their backs.
There were no words
Only cries and distant
Murmurs of throbbing pulse.
The ground rough
But it didn't matter,
It didn't hurt anyone.
Faces were intense
Seemingly lost in a crowd of passion.

One had rock-hard body
But skin smooth like silk.

The other charming,
Whose smile made you forget
The crazy night.

Another, bald, tan and with dimples
That was just pleasant.

An athlete. Young, fresh
And a physique that could rival any statue.

One looked like the other
Just a notch better.

Just one was married
But could never committed.

The other a star,
A dream come true.

And then there was I,
Just dreaming that just for this
Dark and cold night,
I could be her

On (Re)Defining Relationships

Interesting conversation with V.

Last night after winning our badminton game (GO GREEN GECKOS!), V and I decided to hang out for a few drinks and munch on something at a near-by bar.

We started talking about relationships, mine, hers, and of those we know. Somehow, we were able to analyze why the world is full of screwed up relationships and while others, lucky as they are find their happy endings.

Types of Interpersonal Relationships

1. Friendship - simply put, it's when two or more people are in a supportive and co-operative relationship. That and only that. Many deep relationships start from friendship. While it does work for some, it's not necessary or integral for others. I personally believe that 'lover-type' relationships that stem from friendships is just complicated. Especially if you've been friends for a long time. I still prefer the magic on the first meeting but that's just me.

2. Family - by birth, by blood, or marriage, or even legally by adoption or something like that.

3. Professional - people you work with or have some dealing with in a professional sense. This, I believe is one of the most complicated relationships you could have. Especially if you don't know how to play the game i.e. kissing-ass, back-stabbing, corporate politcs, etc... etc... etc.

4. Romantic - Now, this I know a little something-something about having years and years of experience. Defined in terms of the concepts of passion, intimacy and commitment, romantic relationships are often over-rated.

Generally speaking there are so many types of relationships. Boyfriend, girlfriend, cohabitation, domestic partnership, networking, or as Friendster/Facebook and so many other networking sites would define it, "It's Complicated."

So why the heck have relationships nowadays became harder and harder to define. Perhaps because so many of us have been influenced by the society to just become part of what they define relationships to be. We've accepted the fact that we are nothing more that just part of the norm.

Take me for example, I am a born-deep-to-the-core-love-crazed-hopeless romantic. And eventhough my heart has been trampled, squished, broken, torn into a million pieces, stepped-on, bulldozed, and thrown out the window, it has endured all of those only to be trampled, squished, broken, torn into a million pieces, stepped-on, bulldozed, and thrown out the window again.

I only wish that I begin looking at the bigger picture and keep an open mind about certain things. Things are changing, relationships are not the way it used to be. Back when our great-great-great grandparents were alive and relationships were sacred, it was easier (I think).

On the other hand, there are these very successful people, who seems to have everything but a committed relationship with someone. People who do not allow themselves to be confined on society's rules and regulations. The rebels. The independent women/men. The ridiculously successful entrepreneurs. People who don't see themselves tieing the knot and yet are perfectly fine having relationships with themselves. These are the people I should hang out with more often. Maybe if I do, I'd learn a few things from them.

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But then again, there's always Puerto Galera. Let's get crazy. Let's go wild. I shan't think of all this relationship crap while there. Tomorrow will just be a crazy-crazy day! WOOOHOO!!

100 Questions You'd Love To Answer (Not really!)

Was tagged by my bestfriend in facebook. And since I can't access FB until after office hours, I decided to post it here in the meantime. Darn this is long! Enjoy!

1. Last beverage→ Sprite
2. Last phone call→ My Dad
3. Last text message→ My Dad.
4. Last song you listened to→ “I Will Survive” by Chantay Savage
5. Last time you cried→ Last Saturday, while watching Lord Of the Rings, Return of the King

HAVE YOU EVER:
6. Dated someone twice? → Of course.
7. Been cheated on? → YES!!! (See, the 3 exclamation points!)
8. Been singing till dawn → Only during New Year or Birthdays where a Videoke/Kareoke is present.
9. Lost someone special?→ How special? Family, yes. Lover, YES!!!
10. Been depressed?→ Often that it’s depressing. HAHAHA!
11. Been overseas? → Most of the time.

LIST THREE FAVORITE COLORS:
12. blue
13. brown
14. black

THIS YEAR HAVE YOU: (LET'S USE 2008 FOR THIS, YES?)
15. Made new friends → Yes.
16. Fallen out of love → Yes.
17. Laughed until you cried → Yes.
18. Met someone who changed you→ Hmmm, I guess.
19. Found out who your true friends were→ And disappointingly not that many.
20. Found out someone was talking about you→ Good or Bad? Doesn’t matter since it happened in both cases.
21. Kissed anyone on your friend's list→ Kissed where?
22. How many people on your friends list do you know in real life→ Most of them, but some more than others.
23. How many kids do you want to have→ 1 is enough. Oops… I not-so-technically have one already. HEHEHE!!
24. Do you have any pets → None anymore.
25. Do you want to change your name → My full name, yes… my nickname, not so much, I grew fond of it.
26. What did you do for your last birthday→ Celebrated with friends and family.
27. What time did you wake up today → 9:00 am
28. What were you doing at midnight last night→ Watching Season 9 of ‘Friends’ in DVD.
29. Name something you CANNOT wait for → Waiting for my true love to come. (NAKS!!!)
30. Last time you saw your father→ 2 days ago.
31. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life → Be straight (kidding!)
32. What are you listening to right now → Robin Thicke, “Complicated”
33. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom → Tommy Meneses, yes.
34. What's getting on your nerves right now? → One of my colleagues, as he has always been ever so irritating, even just to look at. HEHEHE!
35.What’s your code name → Don’t have one, I think. Does BI-ATCH count? =P
36. Whats your real name → Noeliwanag D. Abelardo
37. Relationship Status → Single… for a year or so already.
38. Zodiac sign→ Capricorn
39. Male or female→ Male (Slut).
40. Natural Hair colour? → Yup… black.
41. Hair color now → Black, haven’t dyed my hair for so long.
42. Pet Peeve → OMG! SOOOOOOO MANY!
43. Need Glasses? → Yup but I often forget to wear them.
44. Long or short → LOOOOOOOOOOOOONG.
45. Height → 5'4”
46. Do you have a crush on someone? → Yup, L’Oreal Guy!
47. What do you like about yourself? → I can’t CHARM my way almost to everything.
48. Piercings → None, but would love to.
49. Tattoos → Yup, 1, but would love to have more!
50. Righty or lefty → Righty though I wish I could be ambidextrous.

FIRSTS :
51. First surgery → My forehead when I fell on the stairs as a kid.
52. First piercing → None.
53. First tattoo → Dolphin and moon on the ass-cheek.
54. First best friend → Liam Tugbo.
55. First sport you joined → Soccer.
56. First pet → A Japanese Spitz named Chona.
57. First vacation → HK with the family.
59. First crush→ A girl that I refuse to mention the name here. HAHA! That’s right I wasn’t always gay, contrary to popular belief.
60. First alcoholic drink→ Pale Pilson, my grandfather gave me one when I was seven as a joke.

RIGHT NOW:
61. Eating → Nope, having coffee though.
62. Wearing → (Semi) Office Attire.
63. I'm about to → Take another sip of my coffee and contemplating of going down for a ciggie break.
64. Speaking to → Myself.
65. Waiting to → Go home.

YOUR FUTURE :
66. Want kids? → Maybe.
67. Want to get married? → Only if it’s another guy.
68. Careers in mind? → Professional Photographer

WHICH IS BETTER WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX?
69. Lips or eyes → Eyes.
70. Hugs or kisses → Both, equally the same.
71. Shorter or taller →Taller.
72. Older or Younger → Definitely older… but ask me again in 5 years, I may say younger by then.
73. Romantic or spontaneous → Both.
74. Nice stomach or nice arms → Both. (Please!)
75. Tattoos or piercings—> Tattoos.
76. Sensitive or loud → Sensitive.
77. Hook-up or relationship → Hook-up then have a relationship. Not ideal, but hey, it happens.
78. Trouble maker or hesitant→ Trouble maker but not too much!

HAVE YOU EVER :
79. Kissed a stranger → Of course.
80. Drank hard liquor →Yup.
81. Lost glasses/contacts → Yes, lots of times.
82. Sex on first date → Depends with whom.
83. Broken someone's heart →I think so...
84. Had your own heart broken → Ahhhhh, too many times.
85. Been arrested?→ Not really.
86. Turned someone down → Of course, with looks like this, it’s like a curse. HAHAHA!
87. Cried when someone died → I ain’t made of stone. I even cried at Aladdin. Yup, the cartoons… when Genie was set free. Again, not my proudest moment. HEHEHE!
88. Liked a friend that is a girl (change this depending on your sexual preference) → But I’m gay so I always like girls… AS FRIENDS!


DO YOU BELIEVE IN:
89. Yourself → Yeah, I guess so. =D
90. Miracles → Not really. I believe in FATE and DESTINY though.
91. Love at first sight → Yeah, with Vince(s). There were two of them. =P
92. Heaven → Yes. I sure hope I go there when I die.
93. Santa Claus → What am I 12? But yeah, I do. I think he represents something and not just a big fat guy in a red suit.
94. Kissing on the first date? → Sure.
95. Angels → Yes.

ANSWER TRUTHFULLY:
96. Is there one person you want to be with right now? → Hmmm.. yes.
97. Had more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at one time? → Yes, in my first gay relationship and I made ‘tuhog’ bestfriends. I will never do that again! Trust me!
98. Do you believe it’s possible to remain faithful forever?→ Possible, yeah but it requires hard work.
99. What's the one thing you cannot live without? → My Mom and Nat my bestfriend.
100. Posting this as 100 truth? → I don’t get the question. HEHEHE!

Open Relationship, Anyone?

It's been a very long time since V and I went to hang-out. And so last Friday we decided to go to Metrowalk to have dinner and a few drinks. Despite the fact that we work together we really rarely get to go out and just talk anymore.

"Usher would probably be the only not-so-goodlooking guy I would f*ck," she said.

"...Because he has a great body, I bet," I added.

"Yuhhhh!"

"I like Will Smith or Denzell Washington more. They have such gorgeous faces and yummy bodies," I said with such vigor.

"Oh yeah, did you know that Will and Jada Pinkett Smith has an open relationship. That's the reason why they lasted all these years."

"Really?! I didn't know that."

"Yeah, in this day and age, relationships can only last if you really keep an open mind about these things."

"Hmmmm, I don't think I am capable of such a thing. I'm still hopeless-romantic to the core."

"I know. That's why you've been single for sooooo long."

It got me thinking if all these are true. It's been so long since I've had a long term relationship and why is it becoming harder and harder to someone who will commit to a serious (and monogamous) relationship.


I once dated a guy who has been in 5 year relationship and it didn't work out for us. I wanted more in the relationship and he cannot give more. I wanted him for myself and he wanted me to share. We decided to be friends because it was just too complicated. Sad ain't it? You find love and love belonged to someone else. I figured the more you look for it, the more elusive it gets.

Why can't I be like one of those people who just finds love and keeps it. Regardless of how difficult it becomes, they remain together. I guess it's harder for gay relationships to work because as they say, "Men are naturally born promiscuous."

Really, what does it take to keep and sustain a meaningful relationship without anyone giving up their principles? Has the age of monogamy really passed? Is it now more practical to keep an open relationship and still be happy?

I've been single for more than a year now and while I am truly happy with the single life, I do miss the perks of being in a relationship.

I miss the first date, the magic in finding someone you would want to live the rest of your life with, the first kiss, the first cuddle, the long and amazing conversations, the birds chirping, the bells ringing, and fireworks. I want to fall in love again.

I know what you're thinking, and I know it'll come. But waiting's a pain and longing is a killer especially since you know people who've sustained their relationships for the longest time. Makes you wonder...

WHERE THE HELL ARE 'YOU' HIDING?!?!